Watch Your Words

Watch Your Words

Last Sunday afternoon as I entered the mall’s rest room, I saw someone familiar who greeted me with a smile. So I smiled back at her. I didn’t intend to chat because I was in a hurry. But even before I turned my back at her, she quickly made a comment about my husband saying how much he gained weight and that I should watch his diet. It’s funny how people think they have a hold on you by giving such assertion. Thank God for the grace that instead of words (that can be an unpleasant reply) to come out of my lips I let a smile to cover my surprise.

Sometimes I wish people would be sensitive enough about giving comments. I believe they don’t mean to offend. They are just ignorant that commenting on somebody else’s physical appearance is actually really rude.

So here’s my take on that.

  1. If you don’t have anything good to say about someone, then don’t say anything.
  2. If you can’t help talking, then just ask how the person is doing.
  3. And unless you really want to offend the person, you can just focus on what you see is good about him/her.
  4. More often than not, it’s not really what you say but how you say it that offends. So when you want to say something, always make sure that it is out of love.

Life is good but we can make it a little sweeter by saying things that are inspiring, encouraging and life-giving.

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Ephesians 4:29