Last Sunday afternoon as I entered the mall’s rest room, I saw someone familiar who greeted me with a smile. So I smiled back at her. I didn’t intend to chat because I was in a hurry. But even before I turned my back at her, she quickly made a comment about my husband saying how much he gained weight and that I should watch his diet. It’s funny how people think they have a hold on you by giving such assertion. Thank God for the grace that instead of words (that can be an unpleasant reply) to come out of my lips I let a smile to cover my surprise.
Sometimes I wish people would be sensitive enough about giving comments. I believe they don’t mean to offend. They are just ignorant that commenting on somebody else’s physical appearance is actually really rude.
So here’s my take on that.
If you don’t have anything good to say about someone, then don’t say anything.
If you can’t help talking, then just ask how the person is doing.
And unless you really want to offend the person, you can just focus on what you see is good about him/her.
More often than not, it’s not really what you say but how you say it that offends. So when you want to say something, always make sure that it is out of love.
Life is good but we can make it a little sweeter by saying things that are inspiring, encouraging and life-giving.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Ephesians 4:29
“The work of the enemy is to feed our minds with the bad things. The moment we give in into thinking negative about something or someone means we fall into the enemy’s trap. And one awful thought can be multiplied over and over again until it became part of us…”
Let’s do something. We will not be fed without our permission.
The world is a beautiful place after all. Choose to see only what is beautiful and fill our minds with amazing things.
Start with the person that first comes to mind and think of something nice about him/her.
Philippians 4:8Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
It’s New Year and I want the least variables of what lies ahead. The left and right expenditures don’t even equal to the cash that’s coming in and I found myself asking ‘how is everything else going to be?’
Suddenly, uncertainty strikes in… and that equates to doubt and worry.
I don’t know why all these uncertainty issues have to introduce itself on the beginning of what could be a wonderful year. And so I ask, should I soak myself up in worries and in the ideas of going nowhere and ending up at nothing at all?
Uncertainty may be very intimidating but it’s also the very sanctuary of hope and of faith. And these two are the only things I choose to absorb.
I found this on the ‘net today and it speaks loudly to me.
Thankful that my sweet Lord always has something for me. His promise always strengthens me.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you… plans to prosper you and plans to give you hope and a future.
The past couple of weeks were a real challenge since Yaya Joy left for good. While I felt that I’m better off without a Yaya, who is by the way, an all-around too, Kris was a lil worried but supported the idea of not getting a replacement.
As I mentioned in my previous blog, it was liberating not to have Joy the last time she was gone for a week. For some reason, after two years, I enjoyed not having her around and I said to myself that it’s totally okay if she’s not coming back anymore. I believe that God really prepared me for this time to happen.
I’m not saying it’s an all easy task to do everything everyday. Attending to Kris’ needs whenever he goes to the office and attending to Isaiah’s the whole day every single day makes my hands full already. But on top of that, I still have to do my online job and oversee the small business that we have. It sure is a lot of work that sometimes frustrating when things didn’t go as planned but this doesn’t make me want to have another Joy. Well, I guess not for the meantime.
I don’t disregard the fact that Joy had been a very big help. But I can’t disregard the ‘unknown’ fact as well that I am capable of doing things on my own and enjoy it after all. It’s just a good thing that Isaiah’s big enough that he can play on his own while I do other things.
I don’t know how long I can keep up but I know God will sustain me. Maybe another baby will call for a new Yaya but while that’s on hold then doing everything on my own will stay.
“Mommy, it’s six o’clock na” said Isaiah as he pointed to the wall clock. “Daddy come home na.”
I was surprised to know that he memorized the time. It was the first time I heard him say it and he was right, his Daddy’s coming home in a few minutes. I believe it’s one of his favorite times of the day because that for him means play time.
And as soon as his Daddy comes home, the house started to rumble. They run after each other around the house. They hide and seek everywhere. They do ‘acrobats’. They tickled each other. They scream and they laugh all they want. It was those happy moments. Though I sometimes tend to be ‘kill-joy’ when I say it’s enough… but only because they were both tired and sweating.
Last night, while I was cleaning up and they were still playing, Isaiah looked at me and asked “Mommy, are you happy?” I was taken aback. His Daddy looked at me smiling meaningfully as if telling me I have to join the fun.
Yes I am happy. It’s my pleasure to see them both happy and enjoying each other. And I thank God that Kris is such a great Daddy.
He is pouring out to him all his love and colors his world with happiness. And they, together, bring that colors to my world and make me the happiest mother and wife.