Watch Your Words

Watch Your Words

Last Sunday afternoon as I entered the mall’s rest room, I saw someone familiar who greeted me with a smile. So I smiled back at her. I didn’t intend to chat because I was in a hurry. But even before I turned my back at her, she quickly made a comment about my husband saying how much he gained weight and that I should watch his diet. It’s funny how people think they have a hold on you by giving such assertion. Thank God for the grace that instead of words (that can be an unpleasant reply) to come out of my lips I let a smile to cover my surprise.

Sometimes I wish people would be sensitive enough about giving comments. I believe they don’t mean to offend. They are just ignorant that commenting on somebody else’s physical appearance is actually really rude.

So here’s my take on that.

  1. If you don’t have anything good to say about someone, then don’t say anything.
  2. If you can’t help talking, then just ask how the person is doing.
  3. And unless you really want to offend the person, you can just focus on what you see is good about him/her.
  4. More often than not, it’s not really what you say but how you say it that offends. So when you want to say something, always make sure that it is out of love.

Life is good but we can make it a little sweeter by saying things that are inspiring, encouraging and life-giving.

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Ephesians 4:29

Awesome Two Years

Awesome Two Years

Has it been two years?! It only feels like yesterday when I had painful contractions at 2am. I managed to endure the pain until 7am. Kris knew exactly when is the time to take me to the hospital. Did I mention he’s my labor coach since the successful Lamaze birth of our first son.

Unlike then, giving birth to our second, Kristoffer Daven at every inhale-hold-push combo was like fighting for my life. It was hard because we found out later on that his umbilical cord was coiled around his neck. Thankfully, my OB Gyne was super good that she took him out without needing to open me up.

I cried when I first glanced at him more than I did during my first labor. “Hay, ang gwapo mong bata ka na nakalimutan ko na kung gaano kahirap kang ilabas.” More than anything else though, I’m more excited for Isaiah to meet his new brother. I still remember how anxious Kris and I were while waiting for Isaiah to visit after my delivery. And yes I still remember how amazed Isaiah was when he saw his baby brother.

It was a beautiful sight. It brought so much joy for us as parents…

Today, it’s exactly two years past. Our Kristoffer Daven, KD to most of our family and friends, and Daven to me is now two years old.

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Where did time go, I asked myself… bakit ang bilis naman? Looking back, I have all these awesome memories of his first two years;

  1. He is polite for always saying “Pis” or “Peees” (please) when he wants something like Mommy, ilk pis.” (Mommy, milk please)
  1. He is humble for saying “Soyee” (sorry) when he did something wrong like    “Soyee, Ya” (sorry Kuya)
  1. He is thoughtful for always asking “Ar yah oday” (are you okay) when he see something different like “Ar yah oday, Mommy” or “Ya, ar yah oday”.
  1. He cares about my whereabouts “Mommy, ar you?” (Mommy where are you?)
  1. He is always happy to see Daddy and will say, “Daddy, carsh, beep beep”, which means Daddy is home because he already heard his Daddy’s unique honk.
  1. He’s always ahead of the game. When I say “Okay KD, I’ll give you shower now” he’ll head happily right to his bathroom, play by the timba with water while waiting for me.
  1. He is helpful and ready to obey when we ask him to do something like KD, please give this to Daddy” or “KD please get the phone”
  1. He is concern about saving electricity because most of the time when he goes out and in the room, he will always shut the door, para hindi sayang ang aircon.
  1. He knows what he wants. When he say “Atch Tayo Bash” he really meant he wants to watch Tayo the Little Bus so don’t give him anything else.
  1. He is some kind-of a health conscious little boy because he will always ask for “Kakers” which means water. In fact he loves drinking water so much that he’ll grab anything like a wine glass to get his own water from the dispenser.
  1. He’s starting young in fashion. He chooses which shoes he wants to wear and most of the times he wants the big ones that Kuya used to own. When I tried putting on a different one he’ll say “No, no, no”. And he grins when I show what shirt he’ll be wearing.
  1. He is a performer. He sings happy birthday and hums any tune with Daddy. He dances whenever he hears up-beat music.
  1. He is friendly and always says hi to people introduce to him.
  1. He has the final say after every milk time. When Mommy say Thank you Lord for this milk, in Jesus name, Daven prays..” and he say “Aahmen”.

What a blessing Kristoffer Daven has been to us. He brings so much joy every day. Thank you Lord for this wonderful boy that I once thought I never wanted to have. I love you so much to the moon and back.

May you grow in wisdom, stature and in favor with God and man. – Luke 2:52



Thirty Six Years of a Wonderful Life

Thirty Six Years of a Wonderful Life

Five days after my father-in-law’s passing, I didn’t know how Kris and I would celebrate my birthday. But if there is one thing I want to do on my special day that would be to have a family picture with my boys. This, for me, has become my ‘birthday tradition’. As much as I want an outdoor kind of shoot, time was limited so we ended up with these ones;

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And because Kris knew that I like opening gifts, he made sure that I get to open not just one but five little gifts. I never thought such small things could make me cry because of the thoughts he lovingly put in each tiny piece he carefully chose for me.

I never imagine I could cry over a pair of scoongies, panyeta, pocket mirror, a bracelet and a gift card. And yes, who would have thought of giving me such things other than the man who knows me full well.

I have everything that I have ever needed in my life but I love how my husband taught me how to keep my feet on the ground. I thank God because He has given me the ability to appreciate the smallest of things and for guarding my heart from wanting things that the world dictates.

I thank God for thirty-six years of a wonderful life He has blessed me with. He made sure that each year is made of experiences that taught me about the greatness of life and filled it with opportunity to bless others.

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Thank you to each and every one of you who remembered my birthday and send messages and sweet thoughts. I am blessed because of the people God surrounds me with.

Psalm 27:4 One thing I ask of the LORD, this is what I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple.

Goodbye Daddy

Goodbye Daddy

Our New Year started differently as 2015 took place. On January 2nd my father-in-law passed away who suffered from complications of his stage 4 prostate cancer.

We are thankful that my husband’s family was able to spend time with him before he finally ‘left’. Days before Christmas Day, his children from abroad came home to celebrate the holidays with him. On New Year’s Eve the whole family checked-in in a hotel in Bonifacio Global City, and shared Daddy’s favorite food in a Japanese restaurant in Bonifacio High Street. The next day, we had a good time over breakfast. Who would have thought that it was his last?

I guess Daddy knew that he’s ‘going home’ already as he passed on peacefully in his sleep. We are grateful that he didn’t have to die struggling and that he will no longer feel the pain.

2015 begun on a sad note for our family but in a way we are relieved knowing that Daddy is now in peace.

There are so much more in this New Year that is worth looking forward to and that is what we focus on. We thank God for the life of Daddy, for the love, the lessons and the legacy that he left all of us with. We are also thankful for all the people who sympathized, visited, prayed and comforted us during the times we are grieving.

2 Corinthians 5:8  We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord. 

What to Feed Our Minds With?

What to Feed Our Minds With?

My thoughts in the shower today:

“The work of the enemy is to feed our minds with the bad things. The moment we give in into thinking negative about something or someone means we fall into the enemy’s trap.  And one awful thought can be multiplied over and over again until it became part of us…”

Let’s do something. We will not be fed without our permission.

 The world is a beautiful place after all. Choose to see only what is beautiful and fill our minds with amazing things.

Start with the person that first comes to mind and think of something nice about him/her.

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

Broken and Perfected

Broken and Perfected

People say you can’t put back things together anymore once it’s broken. They say, you can try but why go through all the trouble? That statement was true to me for the longest time until this morning…

Broken pieces of tiles put together created uniquely and beautifully.

Which reminds me…

We can be broken by life’s tough and painful experiences but God always has His way of putting us back altogether in one beautiful piece.



Psalm 34:18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. 

Who’s The Fairest of Them All?

Who’s The Fairest of Them All?

When I was about twelve years old, I remember how I wanted to have fair skin. Fortunately there was this product that offered and claimed to make my skin white. In my hopes to get what I wanted, I tried it but never did it prove its claim. Maybe I was expecting the result to manifest too soon. You know, like an overnight thing? So I stopped using it plus I don’t have my own money to sustain its use.

When I get older, my interest to have white skin came to pass. I overheard someone saying that my morena skin is better than white skin. I guess that was the time that I learned to love my color. Sometimes it makes the big difference when you hear someone say something good about something you don’t know is good at all. It gave me confidence that being morena doesn’t necessarily mean less attractive.

There are women who are naturally faired-skin and they are sure beautiful. They always seem flawless in dark-colored shirts and always look super nice with light-colored hues especially with powder pink dresses.

But wait, there are also so many women who have brown, tan and morena skin who are equally beautiful. Their poise is beyond beauty that oozes with glamour and style.

Beauty is not in the color of the skin. Therefore buying whitening products will not give you the beauty title.

Beauty will not result from using whitening soap, whitening lotion, whitening cream, whitening pills, and others.

I’m tired seeing all those whitening products in the grocery. It’s tiring how these manufacturers dictate that white or fairer skin is more appealing and attractive. It robs you off your confidence for not having white skin.


Do yourself a favor and remind yourself that

 Beautiful is YOU. Beauty is in YOU.

So be confident and know that YOU are beautiful.

Song of Solomon 1:5 I am very dark, but lovely, O daughters of Jerusalem, like the tents of Kedar, like the curtains of Solomon.